My husband and I had to live apart for 10 months due to work and school. aA the end of that time we sold our home that I lived in and bought a new one where he was. About a month before I was due to move to be with him, he told me I could not live with him and to find my own place. I was hurt and confused. We just spent all this time apart (seeing each other about once every 4-5 weeks ) and now he does not want to live with me?
I have been staying with family, and he refuses to answer my phone calls, texts, or even my emails. He has all of our things since we sold the house. I have 2 suitcases full of clothes and that is it. Luckily I have a job, I transferred my job to the town he is in.
I don't know what to do. I set up marriage counseling the week I got here and he did show up but then the last 3 weeks he has not. I want to believe he is not unfaithful and he assured me of that. I just think he is depressed being in this town. I think he thought it would be great to be back home near family.
He has a history of drug dependence and alcohol abuse. I fear he is numbing himself to these things and not dealing with the situation. I want to file for separation, since his silence is pushing me over the edge. I did not move here to live with my mom! We have been together 9 years and married about 3 of them. I really want us to work, but do not think it ever will.
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